Do you think holding hands is wrong ??

[Leah Wilson =)]

alot of people think its wrong at my age what do you think ??

[Kent A. Miller]

Kent A. Miller said:

1Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: [It is] good for a man not to touch a woman.

Obviously, this isn't a commandment. But it is a good principle to live by.

How would any of you feel if you saw me holding hands with your mom? You would freak. I ask you, if holding hands is no big deal, why would you freak? Because it is a big deal.

Another scripture is 1 Corinthians 10:23 “Everything is permissible”–but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible”–but not everything is constructive.

I'm not saying it's wrong. I'm saying it's better not to.

[Armando Heredia]

I think the most important part of this question is "at my age." This is a wonderful question and I am glad that you framed it with this factor in mind. At your age, being a preteen/young teen it is probably better for you to keep your guard up. It's so easy to progress from one stage of a relationship to another.

Look at it this way, in your life is a series of fences. Each fence is set a little further away from your heart. The way a relationship should work is that first you have the person on the outside of the furthest fence. You get to know each other more through talking, texting, emailing about general things and you will either realize that you really don't have as much in common as you thought and move on or that you have a lot in common and want to bring the relationship closer to your heart.

So, you open the gate to the next fence and allow the person to come closer to your heart through different things. You begin to talk about things that are more important to you and not so general, you begin to share feelings, dreams and hurts. Simply put you allow your heart to trust him a little more. If that trust isn't broken then you will usually open the next gate and allow him closer to your heart again.

This is where a lot of people begin to call each other boyfriend and girlfriend. In other words, I promise to be in an exclusive relationship with you. No other guy or girl is going to have access to my heart while we are in this relationship. This should take some time. Don't feel like you have to rush this at all.

If you've read this far you'll realize that there has been no physical contact. This is important because the basis for allowing anybody to touch you in any way has be trust. Trust that they don't have the wrong motive, that they aren't selfish or aren't going to try and hurt you or take advantage of you and that they understand your moral stand when it comes to purity. This fence doesn't need to be opened for a long time. The mistake that people make (especially in our society) is they jump straight to this fence, climbing over or tearing down the most important ones which are based in knowledge that leads to trust.

Once this fence has been opened it is very hard to close. Many young people (and even adults) have opened this fence too early and ended up getting into trouble because they never built the trust and understanding with their boyfriend/girlfriend they needed to guard their heart.

This is where "at my age" is very important. At your age you haven't had the time you need to completely understand yourself and set up all of the fences your going to need to protect your heart and that goes for the person you may have thought about holding hands with. :) It's also important for you to shy away from getting into relationships with people older than you, because they may be too advanced in these areas and have opened fences in their lives you haven't even put up yet.

Remember, once you've opened the fence of physical contact the next fence is intimate contact (kissing, hugging and other things), and those fences can almost seem like they open by themselves and they are very hard to control and almost impossible to close again.

As crazy as it sounds you waiting to hold hands is going to make it much easier to guard your heart and that will help shape your future.

Here's a scripture:
Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.
Proverbs 4:23 NLT

Love Ya!

[Jarrod Ingram]

well i think you all have good answers! BUT!...i think you just have to use your own brain in these situations with GOD in mind!:)..

later gracepoint!

[Megan]

nope sure don't

[Marcus D. Gentry]

I would have to agree with Kent. So would my parents. lol. And I know that nobody knows me, but thats ok, it can be good sometimes to get a strangers opinion.

Kent A. Miller said:

1Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: [It is] good for a man not to touch a woman.