why do we have to be mean??

[Kaitlins who i am(:]

people have different idea's of things, and some one els may not like it. why cant we just be friends and just deal with other peopls differentses?
why do we have to bite back.
it just couses trubble.
there are so many possible reasons going through
my head.

[Armando Heredia]

It's easier to lash out at people than to try to understand them. If you are different than me it takes work to bridge the gap.

Also, I think some people think if they can cause trouble it gives them control over others. Usually people who do this feel inadequate or like they aren't good enough in other people's eyes (like low self-esteem). So, they try to make other people look worse than they feel about themselves.

The best thing to do in these situations is to not allow people to have control over you by not giving in to their negative attitude or comments. And, if someone comes to you talking about someone else behind their back just let them know you're not interested. If they have something to say they should say it to the person they're talking about.

The best way to stop a back biter is to not let them open their mouth. :)

[Brian]

I don`t know.

[Kaitlins who i am(:]

ahaa, yes.
i agree. :)

Armando Heredia said:

It's easier to lash out at people than to try to understand them. If you are different than me it takes work to bridge the gap.

Also, I think some people think if they can cause trouble it gives them control over others. Usually people who do this feel inadequate or like they aren't good enough in other people's eyes (like low self-esteem). So, they try to make other people look worse than they feel about themselves.

The best thing to do in these situations is to not allow people to have control over you by not giving in to their negative attitude or comments. And, if someone comes to you talking about someone else behind their back just let them know you're not interested. If they have something to say they should say it to the person they're talking about.

The best way to stop a back biter is to not let them open their mouth. :)

[Jami!]

Well, Kaitlin, i understand what your saying, but if we all lived in some perfect world life would be so boring and chipper all the time. and i think its much more fun to have differences and debates over even the smallest things. But yes, i understand what you're saying about all that because i really hate when people fight for no reason. just because i believe one thing and someone else doesnt, doesnt mean we should argue.

[Tinakay]

I will have to agree at times( most of the times) we are mean because someone does think different than we do on things. I have meet people who like to be the center of attention and if they can cause trouble between others they can have all the friends and make others feel bad about themselves and they look good. I have also learned it is very important to be honest, simple and very plain when speaking with an attention getter never give anything to talk about in a negative way. Smile and be friendly but never give personal info that might hurt in the long run. :)

[Tinakay]

I work retail and boy people are getting meaner has Christmas is coming along. Do you think it is because of a selfish attitude. I am amazed people can be so rude.